awardman
This actually happened 11 years ago when I was 17 & she was 16 – we were very young.
She was the one who first met the guy, & she was a virgin at the time. One day, she came to me saying she wanted to visit a boy at a hotel cuz he had invited her. I didn’t know the boy then, so I told her honestly: “If he’s inviting you to a hotel, it’s probably cuz he wants to sl”p with you.” Looking back, I regret saying that to her.
After that day, my friend came to our house & told me my sister had a crush on her boyfriend. I asked, “Who’s the guy you’re both fìgh”-tìn over?” One day, I was with my friend when the same guy came to meet us. He asked who I was, & my friend introduced us. After he left, my friend told me that was her boyfriend – the one my sister had a crush on!
I advised them to settle their differences. The guy then sent me a friend request on Facebook, which I accepted. He messaged me saying he liked me & wanted to date me. I asked about my sister & my friend, & he claimed they were just friends. We started chatting on Facebook, & he invited me to meet him.
I went, & he told me he never did anything with my sister and that – they were just friends. That’s how we started dating, & after 6 months, we made it official. My sister was furious with me, claiming I snatched her boyfriend.
I asked her how he could be her boyfriend if they never dated. My friend was also angry, & anytime we had minor issues, they’d call me “boyfriend snatcher.”
I didn’t take it personally since we were still young then. I dated this guy for 6 good years before giving birth to my first child. He did my introduction ceremony, though my dad didn’t allow him to pay my dowry since I was pregnant at the time – a big mistake by my dad. My sister didn’t attend my ceremony, but I didn’t take offense.
After my first child was born, problems arose – he stopped loving me, h”‘ted me intensely, stopped, stoped touching me, & infact avoided seeing me. I was frustrated, so I went back to school to finish my HND, while caring for our baby alone – no assistance from him either
It wasn’t easy; I had to work hard to sponsor my education.
Before I finished my HND, he approached my aunt to apologize, saying he wanted me back & was ready to do things right. My aunt was happy, but I wasn’t – my feelings for him had faded. However, my aunt advised me that he was a good man willing to settle down with me. He even sent money to my aunt to buy things for our potential wedding.
When we met, he had x with me, & I got pregnant again with our second child.
He told me to keep the baby, promising he would marry me. As we prepared for the wedding by gathering the dowry list, he asked his dad to obtain another list from my family since the original was missing – this formally initiated our marriage plans.
Everyone now knew I planned to marry him, which prompted my younger sister’s outrage: “It’ll happen over my dthd bødy!” she said. I thought she was joking until after I gave birth to our second baby – everything escalated 😫. Now, I don’t even like him; we constantly q”urrel & in-solt each other. He left the kids with me, & I’m living alone.
pls, I’m scared to marry him & wondering… if i Should just meet my sister & tell her to have him back since there’s no peace in our relationship? Please, help! I need your advice & guidance on this situation i find myself in CLICK HERE TO SEND YOUR ADVICE
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