Clara often wears a fake smile and laughs loudly at silly jokes just to make people think she’s happy…CONTINUE FULL READING>>>>>
But deep inside, she feels like she’s falling apart. She tries hard to hide her pain and loneliness from those around her. Being single at 32 makes her feel sad and alone, especially since men don’t seem to notice or show interest in her. She keeps wondering why no one even looks her way or wants to ask her out.
“My friends will say that I am black, bold and beautiful whenever they want to make me feel good but I am beginning to doubt the sincerity of their compliments since no man approaches me for relationship. I know I am on the big size. I have tried all I can to reduce my size but I end up getting big on the upper side while my waist gets smaller, making me look shapeless. Because of the shape of my body, I aways have this complex issue. Most people around me don’t know I am going through a depressing moment because I laugh a lot and laugh very hard to their dry jokes.
“I do all these to feel better and make them think I am fine but I know that I am not fine. Most times I prefer to be indoors. I move from work to my house and house to church. I don’t really socialise. The hurting part is people think that I am married with kids. You would hear someone ask me, how are your kids, after each greeting. I have to tell the person I am still single. And there would be this surprised look on the person’s face.
“I have been in relationships in the past but all of them ended badly. The last one was a church brother. The day he told me he liked me, In my heart I thought I had found a husband.
I was so happy since he took me to my pastor to indicate his interest in me. Besides, my church is a small local church where the pastor knows everyone. I was so glad that he took an interest in me. This guy is tall, slim and handsome while I am just the opposite. I never knew that this brother was just looking for where he could eat free food. When he started coming to my house that was when I knew he had no job, or he did contract jobs as he told me. He ate in my house morning and night. After six months into the relationship he was not saying anything, so I summoned the courage to ask him what his plans were. He told me that he was not ready to settle down, not even in years to come. So, what were you doing with me? I asked him. He told me he just liked me but he was not ready for anything serious.
“I was sad and at the same time happy that I was able to find out his intensions for me. I ended it. Because I don’t have time to play. Besides, nothing to benefit from the relationship. Since then no man has said hello to me. I often get depressed about it. I don’t know if it’s a spiritual problem or it has to do with my looks. Is there anything I can do to attract a man?”
Dear Clara, maybe there’s nothing wrong with you at all. Sometimes, men assume a woman like you is already in a relationship, so they don’t even try to approach. It’s also possible that you’re overlooking the ones who are quietly interested in you. What’s important now is that you learn to love yourself just as you are. Wear clothes that flatter your body—things that make you feel confident, beautiful, and still modest. Try to step out more often. Go to singles’ events, stay back a little after programmes and talk to people. Make new friends and enjoy the moment. I truly believe there’s someone out there for everyone. Don’t give up, your man will find you soon.
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