Grace is 28 years old and a single mum. Becoming a mother on her own was never part of her dreams, but life doesn’t always go the way we plan. She feels heartbroken because men avoid dating her once they learn she has a child. Many approach her with interest but as soon as they hear about her child, they walk away, leaving her feeling unwanted and judged.
“I am 28 years old, a single mother, but it was not my intention to become one. In fact, if anyone had told me I won’t marry him I wouldn’t believe it. We were dating until I found out I was pregnant. Initially, he asked me to abort the pregnancy but I refused because that was never an option. I kept the baby, after three months when it dawned on him that I was serious about keeping the baby, he asked me to come live with him. I was glad he accepted me back.
He introduced me to his family, and they welcomed me warmly. In fact, his mother was very happy because he is the only son. She was happy that I kept the baby. He is working and I was working, too. But at a point I had to stop work, because I couldn’t go to work with my pregnancy; my tummy was bulging out and becoming bigger each day, and because of the nature of my work I was doing then. He took care of me till I gave birth. It was after I gave birth that he changed. We began to quarrel almost every day. He said I should leave his house, when both families intervened, he told them that the baby was not his own. That I cheated on him. I didn’t know how he arrived at that conclusion but I never cheated. And I told him then if he doubted me we should do a DNA test, he didn’t care. He insisted that I must leave his house.
I went back to my parents’ house. That is where I am now. I am the one taking care of my baby and, sometimes, his sister supports me too with some money. It has not been easy. It’s two years now, and I am ready to date but every guy that asks me out, once he hears that I am a single mother, stops talking to me. Nobody wants to date me because I am a single mother. It’s not easy to be in this situation. There are a lot of guys in my DM, but whenever I tell the person I have a child, they just withdraw immediately. I don’t want to hide or lie about it.”
Dear Grace, I think it’s time people stopped the stereotypes and wrong ideas about single mothers. They are just like any other women, only that they chose to give another human being a chance at life. That choice deserves respect, because it takes a lot of courage and strength. So, don’t feel too bad when some men reject you. You can’t control how people react, but you can remain proud of being a mother. One day, the right man will come along—someone who will love both you and your child. In the meantime, take good care of yourself, look your best, and keep a positive attitude…..CONTINUE FULL READING>>>>>
